INTRODUCTION
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Does school prepare children for the real world? “Study hard and get good grades and you will find a high-paying job with great benefits,” my parents used to say. Their goal in life was to provide a college education for my older sister and me, so that we would have the greatest chance for success in life.
When I finally earned my diploma in 1976-graduating with honors, and near the top of my class, in accounting from Florida State University-my parents had realized their goal. It was the crowning achievement of their lives. In accordance with the “Master Plan,” I was hired by a “Big 8″ accounting firm, and I looked forward to a long career and retirement at an early age.
My husband, Michael, followed a similar path. We both came from hard-working families, of modest means but with strong work ethics. Michael also graduated with honors, but he did it twice: first as an engineer and then from law school. He was quickly recruited by a prestigious Washington, D.C., law firm that specialized in patent law, and his future seemed bright, career path well-defined and early retirement guaranteed.
Although we have been successful in our careers, they have not turned out quite as we expected. We both have changed positions several times-for all the right reasons-but there are no pension plans vesting on our behalf. Our retirement funds are growing only through our individual contributions. Michael and I have a wonderful marriage with three great children. As I write this, two are in college and one is just beginning high school. We have spent a fortune making sure our children have received the best education available.
One day in 1996, one of my children came home disillusioned with school. He was bored and tired of studying. “Why should I put time into studying subjects I will never use in real life?” he protested. Without thinking, I responded, “Because if you don’t get good grades, you won’t get into college.”
“Regardless of whether I go to college,” he replied, “I’m going to be rich.”
“If you don’t graduate from college, you won’t get a good job,” I responded with a tinge of panic and motherly concern. “And if you don’t have a good job, how do you plan to get rich?” My son smirked and slowly shook his head with mild boredom. We have had this talk many times before. He lowered his head and rolled his eyes. My words of motherly wisdom were falling on deaf ears once again.
Though smart and strong-willed, he has always been a polite and respectful young man. “Mom,” he began. It was my turn to be lectured. “Get with the times! Look around; the richest people didn’t get rich because of their educations. Look at Michael Jordan and Madonna. Even Bill Gates, who dropped out of Harvard, founded Microsoft; he is now the richest man in America, and he’s still in his 30s. There is a baseball pitcher who makes more than $4 million a year even though he has been labeled `mentally challenged.’ ”
There was a long silence between us. It was dawning on me that I was giving my son the same advice my parents had given me. The world around us has changed, but the advice hasn’t. Getting a good education and making good grades no longer ensures success, and nobody seems to have noticed, except our children.
“Mom,” he continued, “I don’t want to work as hard as you and dad do. You make a lot of money, and we live in a huge house with lots of toys. If I follow your advice, I’ll wind up like you, working harder and harder only to pay more taxes and wind up in debt. There is no job security anymore; I know all about downsizing and rightsizing. I also know that college graduates today earn less than you did when you graduated.
Look at doctors. They don’t make nearly as much money as they used to. I know I can’t rely on Social Security or company pensions for retirement. I need new answers.” He was right. He needed new answers, and so did I. My parents’ advice may have worked for people born before 1945, but it may be disastrous for those of us born into a rapidly changing world. No longer can I simply say to my children, “Go to school, get good grades, and look for a safe, secure
job.”
The story of Who Moved My Cheese? was created by Dr. Spencer Johnson to help him deal with a difficult change in his life. It showed him how to take his changing situation seriously but not take himself so seriously.
D : Deep Breathing
The moment you feel tense, your breathing srtarts to become shallow.Stop what you’re doing and concentrate on taking in big gulps of air.In hale through nose and exhale through mouth.Deep breaathing helps to calm you down and get your heart rate back to normal.
E : Eat Well
Eat small meals and munching on healthy snacks several times a day helps to keep your blood sugar levels from fluctuating.A rich supply of omega-3 fatty acids from mackerel and sardines will help ypur nervous system function properly.
S : Sleep Well
A good night’s sleep can make world of difference. You’re less likely to be grumpy, anxious and tense the next day.You will be able to function better, think faster and be more alert at your workplace.
T : Tune In To Some Music
Whether it’s pop music or orchestral numbers, music is said to soothe the nerves and help you cope with stress-related rises in blood pressure, it’s cheap, safe, enjoyable and has no side-effects.
R : Relax
Though easier said than done, there are special techniques that you can learn to help you relax. One of these is called progressive muscle relaxation. You can do this either lying down or leaned back on your chair. Ideally, the place should be dimly lit and quiet. Spread your arms to your side wih your palms facing upwards. make a tight first with both hands and tense your entire body for 10 seconds before releasing your grip and relaxing.Now start from your feet, contacting and relaxing the muscles, like before, working your way up your legs, buttocks, back, chest, arms, neck, shoulders and face.This method is also useful for curing imsomnia.
E : Exercise
Stress depletes your energy levels and it makes you fat.Stress prompts the release of the hormone cortisol which breaks down muscle proteins. hinders fat burning and causes fat to build up in your body.Working out at the gym will overcome all these by burning off calories, reducing stress levels and enhancing your energy levels. A brisk walk is also a good way to work off the stream and leave you in better mood.
S : Scalp Massage
Use your fingertips to tap your scalp, followed by your forehead. This supposely gives you a quick energy boost and clears your mind. Giving yourself a scalp massage is one of the easiest ways to relieve tension in your head.Plus, it’s one stress relief method you can practice in the office without drawing curious stares from your colleagues. With the tips of your fingers, start from the top of your head and work your way down to the neck.
S : Save A Tray
Pop by animal shelter like SPCA or PAWS to adopt a cat or dog. Pets are said to lower heart rates and reduce stress levels.Plus, you will be helping to save an animalby giving it a home. And we all know how doing a good deed always makes us feel better, dont we?
Can you really achieve your money, health, relationship and
other goals effortlessly or do you have to struggle? Can
move in a way that guarantees that your goals are achieved,
or are you at the mercy of luck?
Yes, you can achieve your goals effortlessly. As much as
your logical mind may tell you that effortless goal
achievement is impossible, that is still a conditioned
belief. For evidence, look to nature.
How do you suppose a tiny seed grows into a giant tree with
no construction workers supervising the ‘building’ of that
tree? How do you suppose you grew without any effort on
your part from a tiny egg and sperm into a full grown
being? Yes, you ate, but you didn’t have to do anything to
grow. How do you suppose this entire planet has sustained
itself for millions and millions of years without any
trucks coming in from outer space with food and material
deliveries? Nature, by nature, moves forward effortlessly.
And that brings us to the part about the guarantee. Yes,
your goals can be achieved in a guaranteed way. The amazing
thing about the universe is that it is an organized place.
The whole of it is one big miracle! And what keeps it going
is what you may call laws of the universe. Now, these laws
never err even once (you can imagine what a disaster that
would be if they did).
So here is how your guarantee comes in: If you flow against
these laws, then you have to struggle to achieve anything.
If you flow with the laws, then, by nature, you enter
effortlessness.
Now we shall look at the one law that we need to know about
for effortless achievement of your goals.
This is the Law of Attraction. Scientifically, you may
think of it as harmony, like in music. Sounds that are of a
matching frequency and wavelength will resonate and create
harmony. They build upon each other. In fact, they activate
each other. When you strike a pitching fork when in a
silent room, any object that would resonate with the sound
coming from that tuning fork will begin to vibrate and hum
in resonance! Do you see the science behind that? Like
energy attracts and builds, unlike energy repels and
destroys.
Ok, now let us look at something else. In the above
example, it must have occurred to you that it is the
vibration from the tuning fork that activated other objects
in the room to vibrate as well. Vibration. That is the key.
Everything in this universe is made of energy. In fact, it
is not made of energy, it is energy. It is only your five
senses that trick you into seeing forms. Forms are simply
the brain’s interpretation of various energy activities.trucks coming in from outer space with food and material
deliveries? Nature, by nature, moves forward effortlessly.
And that brings us to the part about the guarantee. Yes,
your goals can be achieved in a guaranteed way. The amazing
thing about the universe is that it is an organized place.
The whole of it is one big miracle! And what keeps it going
is what you may call laws of the universe. Now, these laws
never err even once (you can imagine what a disaster that
would be if they did).
So here is how your guarantee comes in: If you flow against
these laws, then you have to struggle to achieve anything.
If you flow with the laws, then, by nature, you enter
effortlessness.
Now we shall look at the one law that we need to know about
for effortless achievement of your goals.
This is the Law of Attraction. Scientifically, you may
think of it as harmony, like in music. Sounds that are of a
matching frequency and wavelength will resonate and create
harmony. They build upon each other. In fact, they activate
each other. When you strike a pitching fork when in a
silent room, any object that would resonate with the sound
coming from that tuning fork will begin to vibrate and hum
in resonance! Do you see the science behind that? Like
energy attracts and builds, unlike energy repels and
destroys.
Ok, now let us look at something else. In the above
example, it must have occurred to you that it is the
vibration from the tuning fork that activated other objects
in the room to vibrate as well. Vibration. That is the key.
Everything in this universe is made of energy. In fact, it
is not made of energy, it is energy. It is only your five
senses that trick you into seeing forms. Forms are simply
the brain’s interpretation of various energy activities.
Now, all energy vibrates. You vibrate. In fact, you are
like a giant transmitter and receiver, always sending out
and receiving frequencies. That is why you hear a cheap
radio crackle with interference when you walk near the
antennae. So let us get that settled. You vibrate, and that
vibration rate changes. For example, when you are happy,
you vibrate faster and you feel lighter. And vice versa. In
fact, everything becomes lighter as it increases its
vibration (think of ice becoming water and then steam
through the action of heating and thus raising vibration).
So you vibrate and so does everything else.
So what? Simple. Let us quickly review.
1. Vibration is in everything, including you and the things
you desire in your goals.
2. Like vibration matches, attracts, and builds. Unlike
vibration repels and destroys.
3. This is a Universal Law that never once decides to act
otherwise. You can call it the Law of Attraction. It is
based on the scientific working of energy, the stuff we and
everything else is.
Therefore, to get or achieve something, match yourself with
its vibration. How do you know what your vibration is? You
know by what you feel. Your feelings are your indicator of
your vibration. And your imagination, your thoughts,
activates your feelings.
To get or achieve something, match yourself with its
vibration. And your imagination, your thoughts, activates
your feelings.
Let us see exactly how that is done. These steps can be
expanded for more accuracy, but the following quick summary
will get you started very well.
1. First, decide what your goal is. For this example, let
us assume that your goal is to have a new car. Write that
down. It is very important that you write it down, as that
crystallizes your thoughts and gives a boost to the
manifestation process.
2. Next, get some pictures that are similar to the end
result of your goals. You will use these to help you
imagine, visualize, and therefore match your vibration to
your achieved goal and therefore make it happen. For
example, if you wish to have a new car, get some pictures
of the type of car you would like. You can get those free
off the internet. If you know exactly which model of a car
you would like, get pictures of that model.
3. Now it is time to program your conscious and
subconscious mind, and your emotions, so that they all
match your goal. In our new car example, take some quiet
time to familiarize yourself with how it would feel like to
actually have this new car. First of all, clearly write
down the features you would like in this new car. We shall
call this the form. Now, even more importantly, write down
the feelings you expect to get from this new car. Include
feelings, sights, sounds, tastes, smells, and touch. Also
write down the benefits you expect to get from this car,
and the reasons why you desire this new car. We shall call
this the essence.
4. In your mind, combine the form and the essence, and the
pictures you collected. The idea is to familiarize your
conscious and unconscious mind, and your emotions, with the
total feelings of having achieved your goal already. Close
your eyes and just imagine yourself at the point just after
you achieve your goal. Run that movie in your mind\’s eye,
including all aspects of form and essence. Do this 10, 20
or even 100 times, as many as you feel is necessary until
it feels natural to you. It should feel like the next
natural step is for it to actually happen. Once you capture
the totality of that feeling, you have got yourself a
matching vibration to your goal.
5. Next, clear yourself of any vibrations that contradict
your goal. You cannot achieve a goal if you vibrate against
it. For example, a contrary vibration is disbelief or a
feeling that you are not worthy or capable of achieving such a goal.
6. Once you have your matching vibration and have
eliminated contradicting vibrations, you are done. Whenever
you think of your goal, bring up the total feeling.
Whenever a contrary feeling comes up, gently let it go
(don’t engage it) and bring up the matching feeling.
7. Detach yourself from two things: time and form. The
universe delivers by essence primarily. The feeling you put
out, the essence, is what will come back. In other words,
the solution that will be brought to you will bring you the
essence you held when you were visualizing your goal.
Sometimes that form may be the exact one you had in mind,
sometimes it will be different. Just know two things; the
universe always delivers, but in its infinite intelligence
it delivers in the form most suitable to the essence it
received. What does this mean to you? Well, for one, don\’t
insist that your new car will come through any particular
sequence of steps, or from your income and savings, or from
a particular shop, and so on. Don\’t insist on the
particular car (form). Don\’t insist on the timing. You do
not know what the most efficient delivery is. Your view is
definitely more limited than that of the universe. Any
insisting will only mess with the vibration (you will feel
disappointed because you will have judged yourself so based
on your insisting). Let go. Detach yourself from form and
time. For certain, a form that accurately matches the
totality of that feeling, you have got yourself a
matching vibration to your goal.
8. Act when called upon. As you go about your life, certain
things and people will come your way. This is the universe
orchestrating a synchronicity of events that will lead to
your goal being achieved. Stay present and alert. When
these come, act upon them. Remember always to be detached.
Act purely for the sake of acting, not insisting on a
particular outcome. You will find yourself miraculously
having achieved your goal, out of the blue, step by step,
in a most amazing way that you could not possibly have
planned for!
It is very true that you can have anything if you believe
it. But remember, if you are having trouble finding your
faith, simply look instead at the system, and you will see
that faith is not even necessary, once you know that the
system has been created by the Creator to work perfectly
all the time, regardless. What you put in is what you get
out. Your job, then, is simply not to think against
yourself, and as long as you don\’t think against yourself,
all your desires will naturally manifest. I wish you the
highest possible achievements.
Article written by David Cameron, CEO ImagesOfOne.com.
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David\’s work is featured prominently in the Wealth
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essence you put out will be delivered to you. That is
guaranteed. Let go, detach, as if it didn’t matter. Let go
of that feeling of neediness.
by Robert Anthony
One of the mistaken certainties or misconceptions
most people operate under is that you get what you
want in life by what you DO, or through the actions
you take. Most people believe that the DOING or action
part is what makes things happen. However, this causes
you to create in reverse.Let me explain..
The reason we put a lot of emphasis on action is
because we do not understand the power of our thought.
If you analyze it, 90% of most people’s actions are
spent trying to compensate for inappropriate thought.
The Chinese philosopher Lao-tsu said that, “In the
practice of the Way, every day something is dropped.
Less and less do you need to force things until
finally you arrive at *non action* When nothing is
done, nothing is left undone”. What he is talking
about is *doing without doing*
The problem is that most of us are preoccupied with
“doing”. Unfortunately most of our doing usually
involves struggle. In the western world we are
conditioned to be action-oriented, so we place a
tremendous value on doing. We are so busy doing that
we do not realize that all this “doingness” causes us
to create in a reverse fashion.
Most of our actions are out of fear, worry or doubt
because webelieve nothing will get done unless we DO
something. In other words, we are trying to force our
desire into manifestation through action.
If your decision to DO is dominant, then you will not
focus on what you want to BE in the present moment.
This causes you to miscreate because BEING is the
first and most important step in the creative process.
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Here is the secret:
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It is not your action that makes things happen, it is
your intent. You can reduce the need for action to a
very minimum by allowing yourself to focus on what you
desire until you feel the positive energy begin to
move within you. This energy is not based on doubt,
fear, anxiety, worry or need. If you focus on what you
want instead of what you don’t want, you will know
when it is time to take action. And when you do, it
will be effortless. Doors open and the entire universe
will conspire to assist you in your desire.
Put simply, you should take no action on anything
until you have visualized your desire and made it real
enough in your mind that your next action (step),
whatever it is, seems like the most logical step.
How can you know the next logical step? Here is the
test that you can give to yourself before taking any
action. If you focus on what you desire and still feel
overwhelmed or anxious, then you are not ready for any
action. You know you are ready when it feels like the
next logical step is effortless. There is no effort,
no strain, and no pain.
What we want to do is to use the leverage of energy,
the same leverage of energy that creates everything in
the universe. However, we are so caught up in the
reality of WHAT IS, that we feel we must create
everything through mental effort and physical activity.
Have you ever seen people who seem to have all the
wonderful things in their life without much effort? It
almost seems like they have an advantage over everyone
else. Then you see the people who work the hardest
usually have the least. That doesn’t seem fair does
it? But that’s the way the universe works.
Unfortunately, those who work the hardest usually
have the least because they haven’t learned the
leverage of aligning their energy. They are going
about creating their lives the hard way. They are
trying to use their actions to create what they want.
We have also been programmed that in order to have
what we desire we must work hard. How many times have
you heard - “No pain, no gain.” The implication is
that if you want to make something of yourself, you
must work hard. The message is clear - if you are not
hurting or struggling, you are not moving forward.
But here is the truth - anytime you are struggling
you are miscreating. Anytime you feel pain or
struggle, your magnetic point of attraction is
directed to that which you do not want, rather than to
that which you desire. Read it again!
Actions are necessary, but they are the last
component of the creation processes. Actions cannot be
used effectively to initiate results, because
initiation is the function of BEING, then thought,
then action.
Remember, the creation of anything is through your
vibration. Everything vibrates, and it is by that
vibration that we harmonize and attract experiences to
ourselves. So before you act or do anything, first ask
yourself, how am I vibrating? How do you tell? You
tell by how you FEEL. Your feelings show you your
vibration. How you feel determines what you attract.
When you use the process of creating by only focusing
on what you want instead of what you don’t want, you
will see that the universe will provide a different
set of circumstances for you that requires much less
action. This puts you in a state of “doing without
doing” or action without effort.